1. The Force Awakens
Some people come in your life to give you awareness of the potential you truly have in providing excellence to the world.
If you have an inspirational hero remember they have shifted the emotion of fear to either:
- False Evidence Appearing Real
- Feeling Excited Adventurous Read
- Forget Everything And Refocus
- Face Everything And Rise
With Craig's and Chayya's encouragement, I have been able to coach many. Awakening the force within them to become awesome authentic speakers. There is no room for fake it till you make it.
Wikipedia says "Glossophobia or speech anxiety is the fear of public speaking or of speaking in general. The word comes from the Greek glōssa, meaning tongue, and phobos, fear or dread."
Observe your emotional state when presenting? Ask yourself two crucial questions to overcome that fear, anxiety, fumbling or uncertainty:
- What do I achieve by being in this state?
- What do I achieve by not being in this state?
There are payoffs in both cases.
2. Secret #1: You
Sad but true most speakers are much more engaged with their slides or their ego rather than their audience.
- YOU, the presenter, have the responsibility to inspire, inform and influence your audience
- YOU, the speaker, have to ensure to involve, engage, and enable your audience
- YOU, the orator, have to connect with the audience. They must see, hear and feel your passion and authenticity
Drop your reliance on technology and simply focus on the people in front of you. These people have come to listen and learn from YOU.
When delivering a message to any audience, you need to establish a rapport with them for you to connect on a level that will allow the listeners to listen to you.
This may not be an easy task but through fine-tuning your preparation, practice and delivery you gain the necessary experience to be a successful public speaker.
You will need to appeal to the audience senses that will allow them to respect and trust you. Start on your path to becoming a highly competent and influential speaker with the wise words said by the ancient Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu “The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”.
3. Secret #2: IKO
After carrying out numerous coaching sessions I have noted there are three common errors that most people make when presenting:
- Fear – Allow the nerves to take over
- Teller - Lecture with too much information
- Communication - Display poor connection (words, vocal, body language)
The good news is there are only three things that you need to get right to become a great presenter/ speaker/ orator. Simply apply the "IKO Principles" to overcome these errors:
- Inner Self - Always focus on creating and managing a positive mindset. The way you think and feel has a dramatic effect on what you deliver
- Knowledge - Ensure the content you present has a clear structure. Your ability to entice the audience will be dependent on the clarity of projecting the knowledge you want to share
- Outer Self - The way you use your body language, voice and words affects your delivery
Apply IKO to start developing phenomenal engagement with the audience that no technology can ever achieve.
These three elements will assist you in becoming a powerful speaker. All these elements go hand in hand in order for your to display the passion and authenticity in your presentation.
During my last year in University (1995), my presentation on a one-year project went horribly wrong.
4. Secret #3: P3
I embarrassed myself in front of my lectures and my classmates. I had just about got a passing score for my presentation session. The whole event took me into a direction of being behind closed doors as a career.
Fast forward to today, now people label me as an expert in the field on public speaking/ presentation skills. Believe me, I still have a lot to learn. One of the greatest tools I came across has been P3.
In other words "Power of Three" or for short P3. It is simply beautiful and magical. With ease and comfort it gives you the:
- Ability to remember things
- Communicate effectively
- Establish a connection with others
Throughout history, the "Power of Three" has been used to communicate the message with passion, clarity and authenticity.
Examples being The Three Musketeers, The Holy Trinity (Father, Son, and Holy Spirit), The Three Wise Men (who visited baby Jesus), In fact, you hear it when people say, "wishes come in three".
With every presentation, talk, lecture you deliver start implementing P3 and you will discover your talk to be much more effective.
5. You Lie & Your Breath Stinks
First impressions play an important part in how your:
- Audience feels about you
- Reacts towards you
- Interacts with you
Think about your own interactions with someone and in that split second you to make a judgement about the other person.
Your audience creates a perception about you on the first look. If they are not happy with what they see, their attention span towards your talk will reduce. You need to ensure you make that first impression a lasting one.
Some of these first impressions being general grooming, cleanliness, clothing, the tone of voice, handshake, body language.
My friend (well a friend in my mind), Tony Robbins says "Initially style is more important than substance. If you don’t have the right style, you won’t get to share any of your substance.”
I have heard many say that first impression is actually only a three to a nine-second window. Certainly, this is not enough time for you to show the audience your substance.
You need to realise the importance of your first impression. Yes, it is possible and could be extremely tough to change that first impression that the audience has of you.
6. You Body Never Lies
Michelle Yeoh (another great friend of mine in my mind) says "Body language is a great way of speaking.”
Your attitude is very easily projected through your voice and words. Furthermore, it is projected through your non-verbal communication.
In simple terms, this means your body language. The five core elements of body language being your:
- Facial expressions
- Head motion
It is easy to hide behind your voice and words but your body never lies. Remember your inner feelings have a direct impact on your body language. So, be good with your inner thoughts.
Three body language that works like a charm in developing warmth with your listeners are:
- Smile with your eyes
- While listening nod often
- Focus on using open gestures
Displaying a strong confident body language is important in delivering your talk or presentation. It assists you to develop trust, credibility and connection with your listeners.