Help me…help you” is a powerful scene from the popular movie Jerry Maguire.Yes, initially it comes across as a sign of desperation but it turns out to be touching as it has a much deeper meaning. Slick sports agent Jerry Maguire (Tom Cruise), implores his one and only client, the narcissistic Rod Tidwell (Cuba Gooding Jr.), to help him understand how he can help Tidwell.
On the outset the scene comes across as frustrated Jerry pleading with Rod, to allow him to do what he needs to do in order to help him get the contract he’s after. Although by the end of the scene as Jerry walks away you realise this is the most powerful, hard-hitting and profound scene in the
In its deeper meaning, Jerry is actually saying to Rod:
- Help me to help you thus we help us.
- Let us both work together as a team to our peak performance with what we have. Thus tap into our authentic feel-good factor and with that knowledge, we are performing like legends, like leaders, like superstars.
- Yes, our ego comes in our way thus we are too proud to ask for help. Our foolishness, sabotaging beliefs, values or coming across to be seen as weak stops us to ask for that helping hand.
- Instead, our strength only increases when we work together as a team and help each other out.
- We can be great at many things and we all have weaknesses. And without a helping hand, we will not strive and thrive.
- To conclude nobody is perfect. So, how can I best help you?
Like Jerry Maguire, I am asking you “How can I best help you?” or in other words “Help me…help you”.
Let us take another movie, the classic ‘On the Waterfront,’. The character of Marlon Brando says “You don’t understand! I coulda had class. I could have been a contender. I could have been somebody, instead of a bum, which is what I am.” because he had failed to become a successful boxer.
On the surface the movie is about an ex-prize fighter turned longshoreman struggles to stand up to his corrupt union bosses. On a deeper level, it is about something entirely different. In simple words that scene was the essence of the whole movie. It simply meant, “I am not living the life I expected”.
Listening to a wise person through social media may motivate us for a while but it does not last. Talks on mindfulness, goal setting, purpose, finding your why all sound great and many will apply these strategies. Truth be told, most will fail because there is a much deeper issue happening within. On the surface, you will say it relates to things such as wealth, health, relationships, career or business.
Make yourself aware of the deeper issue within. Admit that is the issue. Be truthful. That is a great step in raising your executive presence. What I know is people and organisations are facing three painful issues:
- The fast pace of technology evolution leading to disruption thus loss of business, employment, the breakup of relationships (families) and health problems
- World Economic Forum reports that there is a lack of three essential skills for ongoing success. These are intelligence, communication and emotional wisdom.
- Getting much tougher to gain trust, compassion and ROI
The solution to this involves many components and one of the critical component being “Executive Presence” or as some ancient cultures call it JIGRA. You know, you love success. Success happens when you influence with trust, and compassion, this is what “Executive Presence” does for you.
Clients say I offer trust, compassion and ROI. As a Best-Selling Author®, TEDx and Global Professional Speaker with 25+ years of experience, I have inspired a countless number of people to success.
Looking forward to hearing from you. “Help me…help you”.