React or respond? How to be more intentional…
Have you ever had one of those moments when you have lashed out at somebody only to regret it a couple of minutes later? You might have yelled or just simmered with rage? Or have you been on the receiving end of these moments?
Why do we react so instantaneously because it’s not even that we feel good about it after…some of us feel just awful for reacting rather than responding? Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have a bunch of alternatives to behaving like a bear with a sore head what does it take to navigate our emotions?
One of the simplest alternatives I use is take a ‘6 second’ pause. It’s easy, it’s practical and it doesn’t cost a dime!
You could use the six seconds to walk/shake it off, to count numbers backwards, think of animals that start with the letter C, to make up a list of your favorite desserts or do whatever else works for you. The idea is to move from a state of impulsive reaction to mindful responsive, this process takes time and effort to master, and can only happen when you decide you want it to happen.
By choosing to do this you will be more INTENTIONAL with your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Apply the 6 second pause to regain control, rather than being directed and controlled.