You are consciously or unconsciously making a choice for all aspects of your life. It is so easy for you to become your own worst enemy thus sabotaging your life.
Unfortunately, a majority of us have never been taught on how to manage our lives and live it with fulfillment and happiness. Thus the need to take 100% responsibility for your own life could be very daunting and somewhat extremely uncomfortable. Many of you are actually unaware of the different elements that encompass a whole life.
Fortunately, Susan Jeffers, in her book Feel the Fear & Do It Anyway® makes this easier for us by defining it as the “The Whole Life Grid”. The nine-box grid with ease highlights the essential elements of a balanced and integrated life. In this manner allowing you to manage your emotions more effectively.
Sadly, many of you have been conditioned to be fixated on one or two parts of this “The Whole Life Grid”. Maybe it is your career or intimate relationship. Imagine, if all of a sudden your career or intimate relationship suddenly fails then there is nothing to support you. You become lost that could easily lead you to depression and your trust in life rots away.
Now is the time to fill up these nine boxes and amplify your awareness so the loss of one element never makes you feel the loss of everything in your life. By embarking on such a journey in my eyes means a blessing in disguise; a divine intervention to having a meaningful life.
In other words you accept and walk on the path of taking 100% responsibility for your life which means:
- Stop blaming anyone else for anything you are being, doing, having or feeling. You are the cause of your reaction, be aware of your emotional state. Know the “ABC” and “AUC” Principle of Success.
- Stop blaming yourself. Do your best, remember it’s all about learning and growing. Blaming yourself, another or others never resolves a problem. Have compassion for yourself.
- Knowing where and when you are not taking responsibility so you can eventually transform it. Learn to view them as a feedforward on how you could improve yourself.
- Handling your “chatterbox”, the internal voice of gloom and doom. Negative thoughts can be very powerful. Yet out of the negative comes the positive (think about how we get a picture from a camera).
- Be aware of the “payoffs” that keep you stuck. In every situation we are in there are some benefits we achieve even though they may not be beneficial to us in the long run.
- Figuring out what you want in life and acting on it. Initiate a Purpose Driven Life, seek within and develop a purpose in life.
- Being aware of the many choices you have in any given situation. When making a choice let go of the outcomes. With attachment to outcomes, we become a slave to our uncontrollable desires.
The above seven points have been inspired from Susan Jeffers book called Feel the Fear & Do It Anyway®.
Be true to yourself. Love yourself. Stop letting others dictate you. Stop being what others want you to be. Stop being second-rate. You know you really hurt yourself by following another.
Celebrate yourself. Be yourself. You have been given a beautiful life, so live it. Everyone of us sometime or the other feels insecure and hurt. Being in this state just can be extremely painful. Being angry and stopping communication never resolves the matter. So, keep the doors of your heart and mind open and always carry a smile on that face of yours.
Laugh and smile, be carefree. Have an attitude of gratitude. Remember this is your life. You are the mystery. You are the journey. You are exquisite. You are magical. You are beautiful.